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Child
Development and its Relationship to Grief and Loss
What can
Parents Do To Help?
Reference: Myers, D. (1986) Psychology, New York, Worth Publishers
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3
- 6 years
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General Concepts of Development
- Egocentric
- Focuses
on one thing at a time
- Inanimate
things can be alive
- Magical Thinking – Child
believes that just thinking about something can make it happen
- Continues
to learn about the world through senses
- Play is critical
to development
- Time is reversible,
may be able to recall some very memorable past events
- Continues
to develop trust
Concept of Death
- May have
concept of death, depending upon the experience
- Death may
be caused by thoughts or feelings (Magical Thinking)
- May be interested
in physical and biological aspects of death and the dead body
- May
think death is like sleep
- Senses caregiver’s emotional
distress
Grief Issues
- May appear
fine
- May respond
to death with irritability, change in sleep, eating and play
patterns
- May regress
- May
be concerned with who will be caregiver
- May show
feelings, thoughts through play because he may not have the vocabulary
to explain
self
- May be very
attached to remaining caregiver and fear separation
- May ask questions
repeatedly
- Very curious
- Physical
reactions and acting out behaviors
What can
you do to help?
- Answer questions
- Maintain
a schedule
- Take photos
of deceased so that child will be able to look
at them at a later date if
needed
- Take child
to a portion of the funeral/service
- Use appropriate
vocabulary for age
- Provide play
opportunities
- Model/encourage
appropriate
expression of feelings
and memory
sharing
- Keep a journal
for child
if important events,
ceremonies,
newspaper
clippings and stories
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7
- 12 years
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General
Concepts of Development
- Egocentric
- Beginning
to understand cause and effect
- Concrete-operational:
understands concrete concepts
- Magical Thinking – Believes
that just thinking about something can make it happen (This
is lessening)
- Continues
to learn about world through senses
- Play is critical
to development
- Peer relationships
are becoming very important
- Self esteem
is developing
Concept of Death
- Death is
sometimes thought of as ghosts
- Beginning
to understand the finality of death
- May be interested
in physical and biological aspects of death
- May feel
that he caused death
Grief Issues
- May appear
fine
- May respond
to death with irritability, change in sleep, eating and play
patterns
- May regress
- May
be concerned with who will be the caregiver
- May feel
a stigma at school or around peers
- May be very
attached to remaining caregiver and fear separation
- May be concerned
about future of self and others
- Very curious
- Physical
reactions and acting out behaviors
What can you
do to help?
- Answer questions
- Maintain
a schedule
- Take child
to funeral or service if he chooses
- Include child
in funeral/service
- Use appropriate
vocabulary for age
- Be honest
and factual
- Provide play
opportunities
- Model/encourage
appropriate expression of feelings and memory sharing
- Keep a journal
for child of important events, ceremonies, newspaper clippings
and stories
- Keep in contact
with school
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